Today I am excited to have our first ever guest blogger. Erin is a busy Mama of two who in her spare time (I don’t think thats a real thing with moms), has found time to write and publish a children’s book. Thanks Erin for taking time out of your busy life to talk about how you manage to juggle everything!
Pajama Mama Monday started out with my first son as a day just for us (before I had 2 sons) – technology and other distractions were not going to interrupt the time with him. Children grow so fast and my time with them is priceless. The name for the day (Pajama Mama Monday) was just a fun thing I thought of one day while we were playing in pjs (I liked how it rolled off the tongue) and then it became much more when I dedicated time just for him and me.
Without interruption from the fast paced world, this allowed us a quiet getaway right in the comfort of our own home or yard where we could focus on play and our love for each other. This quality time became very special. Sometimes we played all day on a Monday, sometimes it was another day, sometimes we played just for an hour because life gets in the way, and let’s be realistic, we cannot always spend the day playing in our pajamas.
I realized that within my own day for my son, there was a fun lesson and playful story I wanted to share with others. That’s when the book came about – so I self published it. When I did this, it was still more for close loved ones and myself and I wasn’t planning to sign a contract with a publisher. After I self-published it (and my dad, a retired journalist, edited it and suggested it is actually worth publishing), I came up with the idea for a series, looked into several publishers and then got a meeting with one, who immediately wanted the series! The rest is history 🙂 I am currently working on the Tuesday book and Pajama Mama Monday will be released in June of this year!
Now, let’s get real for a minute – life with 2 kids who are only 20 months apart isn’t always “peaches and cream”. I gather life with kids of any age or age gap isn’t. Motherhood is one of my favorite things, but it is certainly messy at times – in a beautiful way. How do I do it all? Well, that’s easy. I don’t.
I do what I can and I do my best. Some days we play in pajamas, often with spills or stains on them because kids get dirty, and I try to embrace the sometimes disastrous learning process to the best of my abilities. Other days I don’t really get to play at all, and the kiddos get to play more independently while I work nearby. Some days are split and I try to devote 15 minutes of play with them, and some days I want to pull all my hair out.
But no matter what the day, I’m still human and as long as I try my best, we get through the day alive, I’d say motherhood has been a success that day. I am and will always be constantly learning. I truly believe the only constant in life is change. That’s how I “do it all”. I really don’t. But when I try to, I remind myself to be flexible, adaptable and not set expectations for the day, resulting in most days feeling successful, even if that means nothing gets crossed off the to-do list while memories are made!
Thank you Erin for sharing your story. It’s so true that we never know what the day is going to bring us, but all we can do is try our best and go with the flow.
I am excited to be reviewing Erin’s new book when it comes out, so don’t forget to look out for that! On top of everything Erin already does, she is also a blogg’n Mama. If you would like to read more from Erin you can find her blog link here: Pajama Mama Monday